I was in the third month of my transition, and had reached the I’m-just-going-to-relax-it-and-forget-it stage. I hadn’t had a full head of hair in a long time, and resisting the urge to just shave it all off when it was driving me crazy wasn’t fun. Places that were once bare had hair. Growing out my hair cut, meant one section was longer than everywhere else; and after my big chop, it was bad… and it looked strange. I didn’t want to cut, relax or braid my hair, I just wanted to let it be… except “being” looked weird to me; I was totally losing it.
Then I met this dread that left me with some wise words… “I’ve never met anybody that didn’t look good naturally.” I couldn’t help but wonder why I was uncomfortable with letting my hair be natural? And why did I think it didn’t look “good”? I guess after growing up with hot-combs, curling irons, flat irons, relaxers, “softeners” etc., doing close to nothing with my hair and accepting how it really looked; took a lot more getting used to, than I thought it would.
Change is scary, even annoying for most of us, but there’s no reason to be afraid of good change; you just have to let it happen. Growing up, we all had moments when our bodies/features etc., were not how we would have liked them to be. I feel this is the same for the ” natural hair journey”, there will be “awkward” moments, but they don’t last forever. You can either embrace and make the best out of the good and the bad moments; or let them get you down. Thanks to some wise words, a little patience, religious deep conditioning, some Shea butter and Jamaican castor oil; my hair is softer, stronger, and healthier. No more awkward moments and it also takes me less than five minutes to do my hair in the morning. Ah the life 🙂
peace and love