On to the next one…
According to one of my customers, a lot of people break up during the Christmas season; in a time when everybody is celebrating and coming together, that’s pretty effing sad. But what she said got me thinking about something I heard two older girls (early 20s, I was 15 at the time) talking about about… well one was venting about her recent break up and the other was offering her “expert” single girl advice…LOL.
She said, “Girl, the best way to get over one man, is to get a new one.”
According to the Urban Dictionary, rebounding is defined as: Going from one relationship to the next right away to avoid the pain of a breakup. The kind of relationship that’s simply happening in order to get over one that recently ended.
As a child I never understood why one week Tommy liked Sarah, but Sarah thought Tommy had boy cooties, so the next week he was holding hands with Tracey during recess… the week after it was Ashley lol.
As I got older, I realized that this was how people were handling their relationships or lack of relationships… everyone, both male and female seemed to have this mindset. When my brother broke up with his girlfriend, his friends took him out to find him “a new friend”… lol.
So do I agree with rebounding? Sure, to a certain extent. But I believe there’s a RIGHT and WRONG way to rebound. Men and I’ve even heard women say that women are the worst when it comes to rebounding… and that’s apparently because of our inability to have and maintain no-strings relationships bla bla bla… I definitely DO NOT agree with this one. I think women are too used to being told what their thinking or are capable of. It’s true that we live in a “man’s world”, and that there are sooo many male-worshipping females out there *come back to us!*, but I don’t believe that every single woman out there can’t have a fun, no-strings rendez-vous! The way I see it there are 3 kinds of men… okay okay and women.
The one’s you love and would consider spending the rest or some of your life with.
The ones you f**k.
And of course the friends.
If you’re going to rebound, might I suggest picking from the “the one’s you f**k” category, versus the one’s you love or friends category. I mean it’s not rocket science. Now just because you pick from the “the one’s you f**k” category, doesn’t make you some master rebounder lol. You really shouldn’t even be striving for that…
From my experience, after the end of a relationship, the LAST thing I want is a man… if anything I start my wifey hunt lol. But for some people, the rebound system works. If you fall in that category, I’d suggest clearing out the emotional baggage first, then picking a man from the appropriate category, and rebound away! lol
So how do you guys feel about rebounding? And do you really think everybody breaks up during the holiday season?
make love not war…
♥B♥
